Why Give Up When Those Whom You Love Reject You?

Love always hides the possibility of rejection within it.
No one is exempt.

Now there is no point in analyzing why people reject you. Instead let us try to respond to it creatively. The first thing to acknowledge is the deep pain it costs. Sometimes you cry it out; sometimes you vent your anger in some way. Some people feed on self-pity; some wallow in despair; and a few pull the curtains down over their life. Truly tragic!

My friend, life might not have been fair with you. But know that your life is precious. Know that there is a purpose behind your being here. One way to look at rejection is to see it as the breaking of your relationships at this time so that you will have a clear view of what lies ahead regarding the purpose of your life. As long as you are dominated by the constant thought that your life has a purpose, rejection can only fuel your determination to fulfill that purpose whatever that might be.

Secondly, after purpose, we come to what rejection might do to your heart. It makes you compassionate. It helps you sympathize and empathize with people who face rejection in some form of the other. Rejection caused by unfair comparison, rejection caused by misunderstanding, rejection caused by jealousy, rejection caused by lack of finances or social status, rejection caused by the thought that you are unwanted; all of these and many more when faced by people calls forth from you a response of compassion.

You now stand with them; and they know without a word being spoken that you have been there. What a bonding it is. And what courage it puts into the heart of others to know that you have faced rejection and come out from it strong.

After purpose and compassion, rejection should provoke us to strive to achieve excellence. Let us face it honestly. You cannot do sloppy work and expect people to accept you. Many great artists, musicians, writers, dramatists, and speakers had faced rejection in their initial attempts. Instead of giving up everything as lost they did two things. They believed in their potential. And they kept on improving their skill. Beyond these two, they kept asking, seeking, and knocking. Rejection made them persist and persevere. At the end of it all, the day came when they were acknowledged and hailed as immensely talented by even those who had rejected them.

Finally, let me say the truth that rejection is intensely emotional. Most of us find the pain very difficult to handle. And one thing most people fail to see is that their own foolishness causes rejection especially in love relationships. I am sure you feel anger as you read this. Today, many so called love relationships are fuelled by interaction through social media.

Life looks greener on the other side as chats are seen as a means of escape from boredom, as a means of exploring pleasure without responsibility, and as a means of making a statement that your husband or wife lacks so many things that you find true with your new-found contact. All these are thinner than a spider’s web and it doesn’t take much to break it.

Who is to blame? Remember my friend; God has kept boundaries for your own safety and highest enjoyment of life. Reject thoughts to cross those boundaries and you won’t face rejection later.

Let me conclude.
When you face rejection, try to see the larger purpose in your life for which this is just a preparation.
When you face rejection, know that it is making your heart respond with compassion to others who are in similar situations like yours.
When you face rejection as far as your talent and potential is concerned, do not give up in despair. Instead, strive to achieve excellence which your worst critic cannot ignore.

Above all, do not woo rejection by courting foolishness; for no one can scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned.*

Jesus Christ of Nazareth

*Proverbs 6:27
About Jesus it was said, “He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows and familiar with suffering.” –Isaiah 53:3. “He was in the world, and though the world was made through him, the world did not recognize him. He came to that which was his own, but his own did not receive him.” — John 1:10, 11.

King David expressed hope in God thus: “Do not reject me or forsake me, O God my Saviour. Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me.” — Psalm 27:9b, 10.


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