A Short Speech on 3 Sure Ways How People Fail!

Hi Friends,

There is a lot of talk about how to achieve success out there; isn’t it? Such talks inspire and motivate us.

But then why do people fail to succeed consistently?
Why is it that only a few find success while for a vast majority success remains in the wish list always?

There are surely answers to these questions? Yes, as surely as there is life and death, there are principles of success and there are patterns, behaviours and habits that lead to failure. In this short speech, let me try to point out some ways that lead to failure.

If you ask me which is the most important reason why people fail; I can confidently say that it is their inability to say NO when confronted with a wrong choice. In other words such people try to please everybody. They are dominated by “What will others think about me?” thinking.

The failure to say NO with boldness the first time they get a chance to do so is the road that takes many through pain and bitterness and sorrow even though the entry to it was often through the gateway of pleasure.

The second major cause of failure in the modern world is the inability to say NO to distractions. We live in a noisy world with a lot of voices and sounds everywhere. You cannot walk through the street without being visually attracted to all the colours and brightly lit adverts everywhere. But these are nothing compared to the distractions that come to us through gadgets especially mobile phones and through social media like WhatsApp and Facebook.

The trouble with distractions is that they come in good packets which makes it difficult for you to resist. My friends, distractions take your eyes off your goals and make you lose sharp focus. As far as I know, there are not many who have achieved success in life without having pursued it with a single-minded aim.

Interestingly, the next reason for failure is something that will bring a smile to your face. It is nothing other than procrastination. Let me ask you how many times have you postponed doing things you should have done? How many times did such delaying of things dishearten you when pending tasks became a little mountain?

If you wish to avoid this trap, ask two questions when confronted with tasks. Is this urgent? Is this important? Having obtained those answers tackle the hardest and toughest task first. And never leave that till tomorrow which you can do today as Sir Benjamin Franklin said.

There are many other causes for failure. Some among them are, lack of a specific aim or goal; the absence of planning and teamwork, not setting meaningful and realistic deadlines and sticking to it, the inability to persevere in the face of difficulties and setbacks, and of course not updating knowledge. Perhaps you can add many more to this list.

But I can assuredly tell you with all confidence that if you work on the three core ideas mentioned in this speech, you can reverse the trend of failure in your life. Let me repeat those important points once again.

To succeed in life,
One, learn to say NO with boldness the first time you are confronted with a wrong choice.
Two,have the courage to say NO to distractions even when they come in good packets.
And Three, say NO to laziness, instead prioritize tasks and do things promptly without postponing.

Now, let me tell you my friends, you can listen to all the motivational talks, workshops and seminars on success. But what you hear will only work for you if you follow it up with decisive decisions and action.

Thank you.
Jesus Christ of Nazareth!

My Favourite Nursery Rhyme

Dear Friends,

Is there any one among you who has never looked at the dark night sky? I hope there is none.

What made you look up? Certainly not the darkness. But the thousand points of light that twinkled and shined. Ins’t it?

Did it not make your heart leap to see those beautiful diamonds out there against the dark velvet black of the night sky? Yes, it did. As a young boy resting his head on his mother’s lap and gazing up at the night sky said, “Mummy, if the underside of heaven is so beautiful, I wonder what the real side would be like!”

But I am certain that it is not just beauty that attracts us to the stars. There is a sense of wonder, amazement, and mystery at these shining pearl drops in the sky. They make us look up. They make us think, “Who created all these?” We wonder at the wisdom of God the Creator and his power beyond imagination that makes the universe so densely punctuated with stars.

Above all, the twinkling stars whisper hope in our hearts. That is what the nursery rhyme, “Twinkle twinkle little star” speaks about. It talks about the bright and tiny spark lighting up the way for the traveller in the dark. In life’s journey as we encounter dark nights and uncertain days ahead, let us hold on to the hope held out by the stars. There is light to shine on our life’s journey.

It is because of this hope that “Twinkle twinkle little star” has always been my favourite nursery rhyme!

Thank you.
“To whom will you compare me? Or who is my equal?” says the Holy One. Lift up your eyes and look to the heavens: Who created all these? He who brings out the starry host one by one, and calls them each by name. Because of his great power and mighty strength, not one of them is missing.” — Isaiah 40:25. 26 Bible NIV

“He [God] heals the brokehearted and binds up their wounds. He determines the number of the stars and calls them each by name” — Psalm 147:3, 4 Bible NIV.

Jesus Christ of Nazareth!

Why Don’t You Fail?

If you have not failed, that means probably you succeeded in everything you did or you did not attempt to do anything at all.

The chances are that you never tried. Now why is that so? Most likely you were afraid to try because you feared to make mistakes. But then you already made the big mistake of not attempting.

What is the fear that keeps you from not trying. Isn’t it the fear of failure? Yes, it is!

What happens when you fail? The best thing that happens is that it shows you the stuff you are made of. Failures inspire you to do better next time, helps you learn from your mistakes and makes you desperate about winning. Failures can unmask your pretensions and show you your true character.

Failures also teach you humility. It teaches you that success is a process and not a destination. So there is no reality in classifying certain experiences of life as failures. What you probably call “failure” has done more to mould you into a person with strength of character than anything you achieved and termed as “success.”

So if you ask me, I prefer you to go and risk failure in something that you know to be good. The world may laugh at you. Let it do so.

But you go multiply your attempts. And when the nets come in empty after a long night’s hard work I hope and pray you will hear the voice of God saying, “Put out into deep water, and let down the nets for a catch!”*

*Jesus Christ (Luke 5:4 Bible)
Jesus Christ of Nazareth!

Do You Have the Will to Succeed?

Every achievement in life springs from a burning desire to succeed. It is this burning desire that helps you conquer fear and break out from inhibitions. Lack of confidence will yield to the relentless drive forward of a burning desire. It is this burning desire that helps you tide over failures as well with a never say die attitude.

Another word for burning desire is passion. What can I compare passion to? It is like a forest fire. It rages wild and burns down everything in its path. Therefore try to fuel passion in life.

One of the most important decisions regarding passion is to cut off friendships which hinder your progress in life. Avoid those who speak negatively all the time. Do not associate with people who tell you “It can’t be done.” Instead choose a couple of friends with whom you can share your needs and fears, your dreams and pursuits, your hopes and goals.

Now let me ask you, “Have you met someone with a real burning desire and passion in life?” One thing you cannot miss about such a person is his or her single-minded aim. He or she is someone who has given up on lesser ambitions and focused sharply on getting one thing done in life. Such a person is a disciplined person who has chiseled away everything else in life that will not contribute to that one aim that has taken hold of his or her heart so powerfully.

Yet another important mark of a passionate person is the ability to utilize time wisely. He will make use of opportunities that come his way. A passionate man knows that time is a resource that is constantly running out and can never be replenished. So he will plan and prioritize and act accordingly.

Finally, know that promotions come to a person with passion. That is because a person with passion is someone who is faithful in the small things of life. Nothing is unimportant to such a person. Whatever he does, he does to the best of his ability and with all of his heart in it. Such a person cannot be stopped from being promoted. As Jesus Christ said,

“Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.”*

Yes, those who live life fully are those who have a burning desire to succeed. Now the question is, “Do you have such a passion?”

Jesus Christ of Nazareth!

* (Luke 16:10 Bible).

Are You Anxious About Your Children? 7 Tips for Parents!

It is quite natural to be anxious about your children. Your children are God’s gift to you. So they are precious. And they are the future.

At their young age, it is as if God has entrusted you with the awesome responsibility to raise them up as God-fearing citizens. It is up to you that they look not for words of advice but for a model and an example which they can emulate and put to practice as well.

Here are a few tips that might prove useful.

#1. Celebrate the uniqueness of your child.

It is quite understandable that you want your child to excel and win the first rank if possible every time. At the same time, it is more important to realize that your child is very unique and different in his talent, temperament, attitudes and passion from even his or her brother or sister. Therefore do not fall into the trap of comparing your child with anyone else. That is playing with fire. Remember, a dog is not a lion and a lion is not an eagle nor is an eagle a dolphin. Each has its own unique role to play.

So the first responsibility you have is to simply cherish your child as a unique person.

#2. Appreciate your child even for small things he or she does well.

Often we shout at our children; don’t we? Even though we know we should not vent our frustration or anger resulting from a bad day at our work on our children, we do that. And often we feel sorry later. But the best thing you can do for your child is to praise him and appreciate him for any small thing he does well. The more you do it, genuinely, the more confident your child will become. He will have a greater sense of worth and dignity. Children who lack appreciation at home and feel rejected seek acceptance somewhere else and in teenage years can land up in bad company quickly. Why? Simply because there he or she is accepted.

So shower you children with praise and appreciation at every opportunity you get.

#3. Spend time with your children.

It is a wrong thinking that your child is satisfied with the best electronic gadgets that you buy for him. Honestly, this is absolutely wrong. Buying the most expensive and trendy things for your child might advertise your money power; but it does not satisfy your child’s basic and most important need. That is quality time you spend with them. Remember time flies. And before you know it, and because you were busy building your status in society and empires of your own, your child would have grown up into adulthood. And then it is useless to cry that you could spend much time with them in their young age.

Remember the greatest gift you can give your child is the quality time you spend with him or her.

#4. Listen to your children.

If you don’t listen to your children, even if what they talk is silly and even plain nonsense, the day will come when they will totally shut up. And then you will never know what they think, who their friends are, what are their difficulties at school or college or the mental pressures they undergo because of their studies or a wrong relationship. God has given you two ears so that you will listen more than you talk. It is not bravado to tell your children that you are busy and yell at them to stop talking. Encourage them to speak. Let them open up. Give them the freedom to talk to you about matters that trouble their heart. In this way you show respect to them as well.

If you listen to your children today, tomorrow you will not to have to regret that they are not listening to you.

#5. Take time to understand your child’s passion, talent and ambition.

As parents, we like our children to fit into the society’s mould. So we pressurize them to become doctors when they want to be engineers, we compel them to do civil services when they want to be journalists and so on. Of course, there are times when the wisdom of parents should overrule the wrong choices children make. But know that children excel in what they are passionate about. So as parents try to understand what their skill sets are. Help them to have good hobbies which are creative, involves physical activity and involves teaming up with others if possible. This is far better than giving them a tablet or laptop or expensive mobile and allowing them to chat or play video games on it for hours. And it is often equally dangerous to try to make children do what we were good at or try to realize our unfulfilled dreams through them (there are occasions when it works but mostly it is not worth the try).

If you can help your child realize what his passion and talent is, you have succeeded in putting him on the right track that leads to success.

#6. Do not label your children negatively.

I have often quarreled with parents because they often label their children negatively in front of others. One of their favourite labels is this: “Oh, my child is an introvert.” This is shocking because most of the time this has nothing to do with reality. May be the child is a bit shy. So what? Given the right environment like a change of school or given more time to play team games with friends, he or she will come up fantastically well. The more parents repeat this kind of negative labelling in front of others the child starts believing a lie about himself. And these sinful words or curse words of parents become a self-fulfilling prophecy. The child becomes an introvert.

Never label your children. Put a guard over your mouth so that you resist the temptation to label your child negatively especially in front of others.

#7. Never forget to pray for your children daily.

So many children who went to wayward living during their teenage years have come to back to their parents and to the forgiving love of God because of the prayers of their parents–especially the heartfelt, tearful, prayers of their mothers! When your children go to school or college commit them and especially that day into God’s care. Pray that they will be given wisdom and discernment to face life’s challenges and also study well. Pray that they will not be drawn to evil things, and bad company; for the Bible warns, “”Bad company corrupts good character.”*

Knowing that parents are praying for them is a great encouragement for children and a surety of your love and care for them.

“See that you do not look down on one of these little ones. For I tell you that their angels in heaven always see the face of my Father in heaven” – Jesus Christ.

*1 Corinthians 15:33, Bible.
Quote on angels, Matthew 18:10, Bible.
Jesus Christ of Nazareth!
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Motivational Speech: When Opportunities Fail to Knock!

What is your response when doors of opportunity are all closed?
Do you despair?
Or do you trust God to create opportunities for you?

Trusting God seems old–fashioned. It also will look like evasion of responsibility. But to those who dare to dream and to achieve, God is an active player in the game.

First of all let us consider the seeming hopelessness of closed doors. Either you can choose to give up or you can pray to God to create an opportunity that never existed till then. The Bible says that God calls forth those things that are not as though they were. Thus God creates reason to hope and brings new opportunities where none existed. This act of creating new opportunities out of nothing is truly a God-specialisation.

Secondly let us look at our responsibility when doors are closed. One way to respond is to ask, seek and knock. Well, closed doors demand persistent knocking. At the same time there is a more important and creative thing to do. When doors are closed and nothing seems to happen, it is the right time and the best time to sharpen your skills. A dull axe doesn’t bring success, but a sharpened blade does. In that way you can be prepared for your opportunity when it comes. Some call that luck.

Thirdly, know that God rarely acts through supernatural means. Instead, he takes glory in using the most unlikely human channels at the most unexpected moments to open doors for us. Therefore it is important to stay connected with people. And the best people relationship skill you can and should master is the skill of listening. When you genuinely listen to people, allowing them to talk about their passions and achievements you are getting connected to a great network of successful people who can help you to achieve as well.

Finally, never give up hope. I know it is easy to say that and most difficult to practice. Never lose faith in your God-given ability and calling when all doors remain shut in your face. When you are in troubled waters, you can survive if you can keep your head above water. Likewise, keep your mind above negative thoughts that flood you at such a time. One sure way to do so is to thank God for opening doors when such a remote possibility does not even seem to exist.

Dear friend, let me remind you that you are good enough to make a comeback. It takes perseverance to hold on in difficult times. But you emerge a better person out of it. And you find yourself ready for the opportunity when it comes, because you have been tested and tried and have emerged as gold!

“See, I have placed before you an open door no one can shut”

— Jesus Christ (Revelation 3:8)
Jesus Christ of Nazareth!

Public Speaking Wins in a Technological World

9izEpB6ATMan is unique in God’s creation. He has been endowed with the ability to smile and to speak. With the passing of time he learned to live in social contexts. Thus speech became a social grace; a democratic necessity and a leadership requirement.

Now, with the happening of technology, man is compelled to speak with much more clarity than ever before. But technology has not substituted public speaking. Instead, it has multiplied opportunities. More visibility and wider coverage has compelled leaders of all walks of life to really refine and fine-tune their speaking skills.

New avenues of expression are not confined to the media alone. Within an office or video-conferencing across continents, briefing your team or informing the launch of a new product, or answering questions from the floor are all areas where skill in public speaking is called for. The expertize required is so demanding that people are trained to deliver the goods.

Simplicity, clarity, brevity and impact are the watchwords for today’s speaker. If your speech is short, sweet, clear and memorable; then it could be said that it has succeeded.

But it would be too simple an equation to be realistic. The chances are that your message gets forgotten not because it was bad; but because it was another good message among others. So it points out the need for consistent quality communication. Maybe the reason why advertisements are repeatedly used by companies to stay strong in the minds of its target audience. Likewise your message should get across consistently without quality loss.

Noise level in communication has gone high too. Even a casual stroller across the street is confronted with so many messages. In this competition where colors and words, reality and fantasy, sense and non-sense all vie for your attention; the mind becomes a battlefield. It is in this context that you have to learn to communicate effectively.

Perhaps the saddest thought could be that people are relying on technology as a substitute for public speaking. It can never be. The best messages are wrapped in the individuality of a messenger. When that element is sacrificed a message hangs in thin air. It does not create impact.

Therefore the individual with his public speaking skills will always be in demand.

Even though technology might change, the art of public speaking will remain.

Jesus Christ of Nazareth!