A Short Speech on 3 Sure Ways How People Fail!

Hi Friends,

There is a lot of talk about how to achieve success out there; isn’t it? Such talks inspire and motivate us.

But then why do people fail to succeed consistently?
Why is it that only a few find success while for a vast majority success remains in the wish list always?

There are surely answers to these questions? Yes, as surely as there is life and death, there are principles of success and there are patterns, behaviours and habits that lead to failure. In this short speech, let me try to point out some ways that lead to failure.

If you ask me which is the most important reason why people fail; I can confidently say that it is their inability to say NO when confronted with a wrong choice. In other words such people try to please everybody. They are dominated by “What will others think about me?” thinking.

The failure to say NO with boldness the first time they get a chance to do so is the road that takes many through pain and bitterness and sorrow even though the entry to it was often through the gateway of pleasure.

The second major cause of failure in the modern world is the inability to say NO to distractions. We live in a noisy world with a lot of voices and sounds everywhere. You cannot walk through the street without being visually attracted to all the colours and brightly lit adverts everywhere. But these are nothing compared to the distractions that come to us through gadgets especially mobile phones and through social media like WhatsApp and Facebook.

The trouble with distractions is that they come in good packets which makes it difficult for you to resist. My friends, distractions take your eyes off your goals and make you lose sharp focus. As far as I know, there are not many who have achieved success in life without having pursued it with a single-minded aim.

Interestingly, the next reason for failure is something that will bring a smile to your face. It is nothing other than procrastination. Let me ask you how many times have you postponed doing things you should have done? How many times did such delaying of things dishearten you when pending tasks became a little mountain?

If you wish to avoid this trap, ask two questions when confronted with tasks. Is this urgent? Is this important? Having obtained those answers tackle the hardest and toughest task first. And never leave that till tomorrow which you can do today as Sir Benjamin Franklin said.

There are many other causes for failure. Some among them are, lack of a specific aim or goal; the absence of planning and teamwork, not setting meaningful and realistic deadlines and sticking to it, the inability to persevere in the face of difficulties and setbacks, and of course not updating knowledge. Perhaps you can add many more to this list.

But I can assuredly tell you with all confidence that if you work on the three core ideas mentioned in this speech, you can reverse the trend of failure in your life. Let me repeat those important points once again.

To succeed in life,
One, learn to say NO with boldness the first time you are confronted with a wrong choice.
Two,have the courage to say NO to distractions even when they come in good packets.
And Three, say NO to laziness, instead prioritize tasks and do things promptly without postponing.

Now, let me tell you my friends, you can listen to all the motivational talks, workshops and seminars on success. But what you hear will only work for you if you follow it up with decisive decisions and action.

Thank you.
Jesus Christ of Nazareth!

Tips on Anger Management

Everyone seems to be angry these days.
Outbursts of anger have become common.

Some fly off the handle when they are caught in traffic jams.
Many youngsters lose their cool when they can’t connect to the internet and open their Facebook account.
Others get angry at their wives or children.
Bosses are angry with their employees.
The public are mad at those governing them and students are angry with their teachers.

The list is endless. When words spit fury at such moments; the damage it does to oneself and others is immense.

There are no easy solutions to be offered. Yet a person who becomes habitually angry might like to take a look at the following tips.

#1. The Pressure Cooker
Some people bottle up things on the inside and keep it boiling under tremendous pressure. At some weak point the whole pressure comes out with a loud blowing whistle. It jolts listeners and makes them wonder what really happened to provoke such an outburst.

The solution is simple. Have an outlet. Find a trusted friend with whom you can share on a regular basis what is irritating you. That is a safety valve.

Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control – Proverbs 25:28

#2. Accept Others
One of the surest ways to have conflict in marriage is when one tries to change the other. This simply does not work. Therefore the husband gets angry at the wife and vice versa. The surest way such conflicts can be avoided is to understand and accept your husband/wife as a person with shortcomings. And love him/her anyway in spite of all faults.

If there is a habit of your husband/wife that is irritating you and provoking you to anger; gently, lovingly point it out. There is no guarantee that your spouse is going to change; but still it might help. It can be things like throwing the dress to a corner of the room rather than putting it inside the laundry box. Perhaps instead of shouting at your spouse, you can do it yourself!

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails – St. Paul (1 Corinthians 13:4–8).

#3. Self-Righteousness
Many people get angry because they think that they are right all the time; and whatever others say is wrong. It is ego at its worst. When combined with pride it becomes destructive.

If you honestly admit, you’ll be able to say that a major percentage of outburst of anger from your part happened because you had the “I am right” attitude. Why not think there are other people who could be right. And be humble enough to admit the fact that you might not know everything under the sun.

Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools. (Ecclesiastes 7:9)

#4. Don’t React Quickly
Sometimes there is a genuine reason why you became angry. But it is good to give yourself time to think. Take a walk and get alone for some time. Do not allow your emotions to do the talking. Think through the problem. And speak (or write) to those concerned after you calm down.

Such a time gap would clarify issues and you’ll be able to deal with the core issue rather than lose yourself in lesser and unimportant issues that can take the power out of your communication.

Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. (James 1:19)

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. — St. Paul (Ephesians 4:26)

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All Scripture quotes from the Bible, New International Version.

Tips on Money Management

Make money grow little by little. You never know how much power 1 rupee has until you try to get a train ticket when you are having 1 rupee less than needed. So it doesn’t matter if your saving is small; but store it up little by little. One day you’ll be surprised that it becomes a significant amount to help you meet a need.

Do not try to get rich quickly. “For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil,” says the Bible. It does not say money is evil; but the love of money is what creates trouble. Lifestyles of people with money and advertisements that show “happy” people tempt us to get rich quickly. If you fall for that temptation you will try to get money by easy, unlawful or unethical methods. That will land you up in trouble.

Try to be a giver. When you give to others who are in need and to those who are poor; you are earning freedom—freedom from worry. That is because when you give to those who lack; you are in fact giving to God. “He who is kind to the poor lends to the LORD, and he will reward him for what he has done” said King Solomon. He makes it a priority to take care of your needs. So when God is in the business of taking care of you; you can live without worry.

Not all our wishes will be granted; because God is a loving Father who knows what is good for us. But since God is feeding the birds of the air (who do not store up their food) on a daily basis, he will take care of you because you are more valuable and precious in his eyes than all the birds of the air.

Do not try to spend what you do not have. Credit cards, for example, give you a lot of freedom in using money. But that also tempts people to pay in advance money they don’t really have with them. There are several people who spend in advance in the hope that they will get money from some work they will be doing soon; but what if that project does not work out? Then they fall into debt; and to get out of debt they will borrow further. This is a vicious cycle and can ruin people.

Always control your buying or your expenses. When the money is in your hand; it is yours. When you spend it; it cannot be recovered. So prioritize your spending. Do not waste money on what is not absolutely necessary. Then you will be able to spend wisely and you’ll have money to spare.

Then there is another way in which money is drained away. You buy small little insignificant things just because you liked it when you saw it. At the end of the day all your big currency notes would have become small change and you would wonder where all the money disappeared to.

Invest wisely. Generally people lose heavily when they try to make easy money. Those projects which promise that your money will multiply quickly are generally to be treated with caution.

Avoid last minute rush in buying. Instead plan in advance, get information regarding competing products and prices, find out more about after-sales services offered, and negotiate for a win-win.

Finally, remember that there is nothing of your money that you carry to your grave. You go empty- handed. Alexander the Great made that a point when he had his hands hang out of his coffin with palms open.

So be faithful with the money that God has entrusted you with; for at best you are just a steward of what God has given you and nothing more. Make money your slave and servant; and never let it master you. And do good to others with your money and you’ll have treasures in heaven you can spend an eternity with.

“It is more blessed to give than to receive.” – Jesus Christ

“All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty” — King Solomon (Proverbs 14:23/Bible NIV)

Jesus Christ of Nazareth!

Tips on Time Management

Here are certain tips that might help you manage time wisely:

# Plan your time.
A time table is the basic step that can help you begin to plan. Be flexible in case new priorities emerge in course of time.

# Do first things first.
At first look this appears simple. But it is not. You need to plan to do the important things first as well as the difficult things. Usually the difficult things are kept for the last and they never get done.

# Do not postpone.
Lame excuses, laziness, irrational fears are all reasons we cite to postpone. It was Benjamin Franklin who said, “Never leave till tomorrow which you can do today.” This is a wise advice.

# Do not let yesterday’s failures steal your time today.
Always count today as your last day on earth. There is no time to lose brooding over what happened yesterday. The same is true of wasting time in wishful thinking of tomorrow. Act now.

# Get things started.
Instead of thinking of doing a job for long, start somewhere. Then energy and passion to act will come on its own. Too much waiting always increases inertia. Then it becomes difficult to move unless an external force acts on us as Isaac Newton proposed.

# Utilize spare time wisely.
Yesterday I read a book while watching a cricket match on television. I focused on reading, and looked at the screen only when sounds of something exciting happening reached my ears. Another way to read while watching the game is to focus on the game and turn to reading while the advertisements are being shown. Either way, you’ll be able to cover a lot of ground.

# Do not waste another’s time.
Basically it begins with a respect for another’s time. While you visit others, do ask whether you are taking much of their time. Do not opt for long conversations over the phone for the person at the other end could be busy.

# Time Flies
Life is measured in time–in days, months, seasons, and years. No one knows how long before the shadows lengthen or a cruel, untimely cut separates us from the land of the living. So a wise man learns to invest his time well. Moses the great leader once prayed, “Teach us to number our days aright, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” (Psalm 90:11).

The swiftness with which life passes was condensed to a very powerful image by a man in suffering, Job. He said, “My life is swifter than a weaver’s shuttle.” Time, as the proverb of old says, does not wait for us. Therefore let us try to make time our best friend and decide for eternity today.

Jesus Christ of Nazareth!
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Tips for Compering

 

“A thing of beauty is a joy for ever,”

so wrote John Keats.

As far as a speaker is concerned, the opportunity to act as a compere for a programme is a great joy. It calls for all his skill, grace, and eloquence. Success as a compere is not a matter of chance. Instead careful preparation and precise execution is what makes compering a thing of beauty.

A compere can lift the mood and quality of a programme to great heights. Here are a few simple tips to do so.

#1. Be sure about all the names of people you have to mention. Try to understand how names that are strange to you are pronounced. Never get the names of people wrong; especially that of guests. Be also sure about their Profession or Qualification. Do not label them different from what they wish to be presented as. (Read more on this point: 7 Mistakes to Avoid While Compering)

#2. Be clear about what you are supposed to do. Is it to introduce them, felicitate them or simply invite them? Be clear about roles you are to play during the course of progress of the programme. Do the organizers expect you to hand over some memento to the Chief Guest to be given to its recipient? and so on.

#3. It is excellent if you can write down the entire script for the compering before you actually do it. This not only gives you confidence but gives you freedom to make last minute adjustments. You need to remember that last minute adjustments come in plenty. Type your script in large, easy to read fonts in double space. Leave a lot of margin and spaces in between to insert comments.

#4. Be lively and enthusiastic in your presentation. A compere sets the tone for the entire programme. It is his privilege to keep the momentum going. Along with the words spoken, dynamism of the compere on stage helps the audience to eagerly anticipate the segment that follows.

#5. The way you begin is important. It is the starting block from where you will start sprinting. Have a smile from your heart on your face; show confidence in the way you stand; let your movements be with grace and be loud and clear when you begin. More than this, the introduction has to set the tone for the entire programme for the day.

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#6. Find a few apt quotations (not commonplace jokes) which you can quote between speeches or programmes. If the audience can feel the connection between those lines and the program, then it would be fantastic. Humour arising out of situations or content of speeches can be used to connect with the audience.

#7. Be careful about voice modulation and clarity. Reduce speed without letting go of enthusiasm. It needs practice. Be loud enough to be heard. You may have to put in 10% to 25% extra effort than your normal speaking to get this right.

#8. Try to make transitions smooth through comments which are brief and to the point. Do not talk for long. Your role is to facilitate not to dominate. You are like the salt of the earth; adding taste without really clamouring for attention. As is said, a man who wants to lead the orchestra must turn his back on the crowd.

#9. Anticipate everything to go wrong. Because many times things do wrong unexpectedly. For example, power failure while someone is singing or speaking. Then you may have to step on stage and take control of things. Be prepared to do so. And also be prepared with knowledge in advance as to what can be done as back-up to redeem the situation.

#10. Finally, it would be great if you can go and practice your compering on stage at the actual venue a day before the event. You Too Can Compere!

To sum up, if you can enjoy your performance with confident enthusiasm and connect with audiences, you will do well.
Jesus Christ of Nazareth!

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