When you have a got a white sheet of paper and a set of colours be careful how you paint on it. You’ve got no second chance!
#School Teachers’ Concern
Recently a senior school teacher with more than 30 years of experience had The Use of Abusive Words by Students in School as the topic of her speech. She said that in her school a Parent Teacher Association meeting was convened just to discuss this problem. And parents were advised not to use curse words during conversations at home.
Parents need to realize that their children’s minds are like sponges ready to absorb whatever they see elders speak or do. Wrong influences like using abusive/curse words in their hearing can have far-reaching consequences. You need to be warned about it.
#At College it Becomes Habitual
During my days at college I noted that a classmate was always punctuating his speech with a particular curse word. That word had vulgar overtones as well. One day after he had used this word in his speech, I interrupted him and asked, “Do you remember the word you used now.” He had no clue.
It was then I realized that youngsters use curse words by habit without thinking about its meaning or the impact it creates on someone else. Possibly what started off as appearing smart before peers by using curse words becomes a habit one finds difficult to break in later life.
#Embarrassment in Public
I have seen students embarrass themselves in public speaking sessions (happens in interviews as well) when they used curse words unknowingly in public. They use it whenever they face some disappointment or setback. It reveals the new generation’s inability to cope with pressure and their willingness to use some escape mechanism to find relief.
#Movies and Sports to Blame
Certainly children start hearing curse words from movies. These words are used in plenty by their heroes and heroines. And by imitation, children start using it.
Serials have their own versions of twisted use of language which are often suggestive. Even when children are not watching these shows in particular they cannot escape hearing the filth that comes through the idiot box.
The field of Sports today reaches billions of viewers. But what they see often is not sportsmanship but aggression. It is accompanied by angry gestures, fights on the ground, and to top it all there is verbal abuse as well. Parents need to think seriously about the kind of value system their children are imbibing from these kinds of exposures they get.
#No Easy Solutions
No easy solutions have I got to propose. But one suggestion is to teach students and children to think before they speak. It is also important to teach them to discern that when their favourite heroes and heroines or even villains in movies swear, curse, rant and rave; it is a sign of their weakness and not strength. They need to understand that the use of four-letter words as they are infamously known is not a sign of manliness but cowardice.
To conclude, we often hear of tragic deaths because youngsters failed to heed warning signs of danger on the roads or rocky beaches. I often wonder how little we have heeded the warning of Jesus Christ that men will have to give account on the day of judgement for every empty/idle/careless word they have spoken!*
Tips on Anger Management
Tips for Compering
Jesus Christ of Nazareth!
* Source: Matthew 12:36, Bible.
A couple of prayers of King David:
Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips. Let not my heart be drawn to what is evil.
May the word s of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.
[Scripture quotes from Psalm 141:3, 4 and 19:14 from the Bible, New International Version.]